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Relationships

Hello! *Heads up! It's a long one!* So this evening I wanted to talk about relationships. There are so many of them, aren't there? The relationship we have with family members, friends, coworkers, partners, ourselves. Each relationship helps shape us into who we are. Or have helps us see what we don't want to become. They test us, they challenge us, they change us, they help us grow.  Sometimes we get lucky and have long lasting, healthy relationships with the people who come into our lives. Some come into our life by chance and others we are born into. Despite all the therapy, there are times when we (I) enter into relationships that we (I) know are damaging and toxic and those are the relationships I want to talk about today. If you're lucky you won't ever have to experience a toxic relationship and I pray that you don't. But I, have not been so fortunate. I have watched my mother for... practically my entire life deal with a toxic person and fun...

Setbacks

Evening Y'all! I had a minor setback a couple of days ago and another one today. Honestly, I'm a little disappointed in myself because I've made such good progress and it's a little disheartening. But, I am going to make the conscious decision right this second to not let this deter me from my path of recovery. I am going to let this be a learning experience. I'm going to get over this obstacle and emerge on the other side just a little bit stronger than I was. Too many times I think we’ve allowed ourselves to become so discouraged by a choice we’ve made that we give up because it seems so much easier than having to admit to ourselves we’ve made a mistake. Instead, I think we should own that. Hold ourselves accountable for the mistakes or the decisions that lead up to this point. We can’t keep going through life always blaming others or blaming things for our actions. We are all faced with a choice one way or another and no matter what choice we make there are ...

Positive Outlooks

Good Evening! My job has been recently implementing some changes and they were just put into effect last week. Corporate has decided to get rid of certain positions and alter the pre-existing ones. My position was one of the ones that were eliminated. Ugh. So, unfortunately for me, I am no longer a manager. They've kept me on though so it's not like I've lost my job. I was demoted.  It's got me feeling a type of way and I'm trying very hard not to take it personally because the reality of the situation is that it's not personal. It's business. This change affected all employees of the company who held my position in other stores, not just my store. I've had to remind myself of this like 8 billion times today. I'm finding that I'm really dwelling on the negative a lot today. Dwelling on the negative is one of those pesky automatic thoughts. It's so hard sometimes to break the habit of doing that especially because I've been ...