An Anxious Girl In A Scary World

I recently read an article that said that having no boundaries is a byproduct of having no self-esteem. As much as I didn’t like how that made me feel I can admit that it’s true. In her article, O’Brien said, “ Boundaries are representative of how much or little you respect yourself. ”   What I got from that statement is that if we don’t have any respect for our own feelings and emotions then we allow ourselves to be mistreated and our boundaries to be stepped on. Boundaries are defined as guidelines, rules, or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits. It’s easy to say, “okay, these are my boundaries,” but it’s much more difficult to enforce them. We have to openly communicate what are boundaries are and make sure we’re following through with the execution otherwise we’re contradicting what we said. O’Brien stated, “ One way to quickly get s...

Guilt McGuilterson should be my new name. I might legally change it, in fact. Kidding! I just have to say, I am the queen of being guilted. It’s honestly so easy to guilt me into anything. I’m always so concerned about being “the good friend” or the “good employee” or the “good girlfriend” that I let people take advantage of my “good” side. Throughout my entire life, I’ve been easily persuaded and I have been the perfect target for people who want to take advantage of me. I rarely say no. I rarely stand up for myself. I always get myself into a situation I would have liked to avoid. I always end up doing things for people that I didn’t want to do. I always end up going places that I didn’t want to. This was mainly prevalent in my workplace and with my partners. At my old job, if someone called out and I was off that day, I would be the first person they called. Certain times, I didn’t mind being called in because I liked having the money but after a while it became so often t...