The Struggle is Real

Good morning everyone!

Yesterday morning and this morning I was having a struggle. I felt as if I had hit this roadblock in my life and I wasn't sure how to move forward. I say all the time that in order for us to move forward that we have to do whatever work is necessary otherwise we'll be stuck at the same point in our lives for the rest of our lives.

I have to be honest with you guys... I've been slacking pretty hard at doing the work that's needed for me to move forward but I've hit the point today where I'm like, something's gotta give. I cannot sit around and complain anymore. I can't keep doing the same thing day in and day out and expect anything to move in the direction I want it to. I know we all get into ruts and it's hard to climb out of them when you feel that low but I've consciously made the decision that I can't be there any more. I need to get out.

I wasn't really sure where to start and I was struggling with where to even begin but I did some thinking and here's what I've come up with:

Think about what you want in life, where you want to be and how you can get there. Formulate a plan of action and then execute the plan.

What do I want?:

A stable job/career, a way to live comfortably without living paycheck to paycheck, a sense of independence, a companion, a family, to be emotionally and mentally stable.

How do I achieve my goals?:

Career: Go to school

Independence: Rely on others less, do things by myself without someone by my side

Companionship: Stop chasing after men and acting indecently

Family: That comes along after finding my companion – see above

Emotionally/mentally stable: DO THE WORK! Read, write, attend meetings, achieve goals above.

For me, I spend a lot of time chasing boys which doesn't leaving me much time or energy to put into anything else. To help cut back on the amount of time I'm spending on boys, I've given myself a 3x a week plan. I can see, hang with, do whatever with boys only 3 times a week. With the rest of my free time I can put my energy into researching schools and finding where my desired program is offered and then apply. Being that I am co-dependent I  have a tendency to attach myself to boys/friends because I don't like to do things alone and I feel as if I need to have someone do things with me all the time. By cutting back on my boy time it's going to give me the time to do things independently. All of these things ultimately will help me become more emotionally and mentally stable and will result in me obtaining my goals. Not only that, but by accomplishing these things also helps me combat the anxiety and the codependency I face everyday. So, I'd say that's a win-win!

In  my case, everything is kind of tied together and leads me to where I want to be. It may not be like that for everyone but I feel that if you can come up with some sort of plan it might be easier for you to follow it. You can start taking those steps that will bring you out of your rut. 

It also might be a good idea to actually write it out or type it up because having a physical plan of action in front of you might bring you a little more motivation. 

Lets get back to work! 

With Love & Support,

Anxiety Girl - xoxo